Cutting and Pruning Forward…

Things change:  people, places, things, situations, personal and professional relationships, etc.

That’s a feature of life that won’t ever be different from what it is currently.  Once one understands this notion…the question becomes:  How do you change with it to maximize the benefits that are/will be presented to you?  If a plant’s roots outgrow a pot, unless your a botany enthusist, how do you know to change it out?  To maximize the plant’s growth potential, the change has to take place…

Does this apply to other aspects of life as well?  To business? Personal life? Professional ambitions?  To some YES, and to some NO.  But to those who agree, how do you detach from a habit that you may have been accustomed too for months, years, decades, without falling victim to the “depression” hole called a VOID?

Through the years of developing the notion, the “feel”, and direction of Random Star Music, these questions played through my head as I evaluated the “expiration date” to individuals that I was in constant contact with.  Some were around for years, others for days but in all the same respect, a duty had to done.  I believe it’s easier for overly ambitious individuals to cut off a relationship (significant others, friends, co-workers, professional, personal…you fill in the blank for which relationship fits your situation) and not to think twice about it versus “satisfied” individuals enjoying the stroll of life. 

Does everyone feel the same about the situation?  Of course not..but this is an “extreme radical’s” point of view.  Someone with the goal of  becoming a muti-millionaire within a few years, cuts the excess fat from the lean beef in order to progress.  They may try to develop a steamline system/environment that reduces stress, unneccesary agitations and distractions.  That “fat” includes:  people with no sense of other’s time; people who spend every cent they touch and try to persuade others to do the same; liars; people who take, take, take and don’t seem to learn from their mistakes; liars, again; individuals that lack a sufficient amount of common sense; “friends” who only want to hang out to build up to a moment in order to ask you for something; people who enjoy making a scene while hanging out, with no remorse or ability to feel embarassment; and so many other reasons that I may have to write a seperate blog just to cover it all!

What I’m saying is…it’s very rare these days to have a “relationship” last for 40-50 years because morals, sincerety, loyalty, devotion, honesty, etc (that would be a seperate blog too) aren’t what they used to be.  Have I done it?  Have a cut out people/relationships from my life?  Hell yes!  Cutting relationships seem to be part of an annual assessment for me these days!  Let’s not say CUT, let’s use the word PRUNE, because it’s only done to continue growth, not out of spite.

If you’re not in agreement with me, you’re mind set is probably along the lines of:  “Well we can tell SOMEONE doesn’t have any friends!” -or- “You’ll never have a successful (personal) relationship!” -or, let’s try- “You’re going to be a lonely man in life!”  Ha, ha!  Did I cover it?  Lol.  Well to answer your possible question(s): I have many, the important ones to me have a similar mentality - I have, but “successful” is subjective - Loneliness is a state of mind, it depends on if you NEED to be with someone.  I’m not emotionally dependant which is why I have so much FUN in my relationships because it’s “icing on the cake, not the ingredients!”  It does not make me who I am.  The goal, MY goals, are more important to me.  “Love doesn’t pay bills”…it just helps you enjoy what you have.

So the answer to the question above, and to paraphrase for all who may suffer from a guilty conscience…you HAVE to have a far deeper love for what you’re “pruning” your life for than the “leaves” that are growing from your tree.  Some may hurt more than others and not everyone will understand your thought process, but in your mind’s eye it only HAS to make sense to you!  That is the only “thing” that is necessary.

in assessing you’re life/relationships, just make sure you’re “pruning” and not “cutting”.  There’s a difference between walking away from a bridge and burning it…